It’s just trivial.

Salam.

Recently, there were issues about relationship yang affect my mind tremendously. Call me freak but I did actually foresee this thing to happen. Ha-ha (o-kay…that sounds real freaky..). They were all about wrong things going round the clock. I’m not to specify what’s what here, but rather I really wish for the best to overcome all.

Previously (it’s more like few hours ago..), I met up with some good friends. The kind of friends from amongst those I trust the most. The kind of friends where we could freely talk about almost anything. The kind of friends those wouldn’t give you headache for nothing. The kind of friend…(O-kay! O-kay! We got it already! So just get to the point silly!). Ha-ha. O-kay. Basically we would meet up to talk about weather (kidding!). To talk about what is up to the day. And so this one friend ask me about something trivial (I guess..) in a relationship. It’s about the present partner got haunted by the other’s past (..got what I mean?). Ye-ah. It’s something like your other half is holding onto some unnecessary memories of his or her past relationship or liking. It’s sort of like that.

So the question was; should this friend get upset or not? (what??).

Even from before I’ve had this fix answer on the matter concerned. It’s something like the same answer you would find in the scheme of a-decade-due-exam-question. But looking at that real bewildered expression, I’ve got no choice but to convince her how things really work in a pre-life-long-relationship (this is because I was reminded to never give advice on relationship matter though).

She told me about how this guy holds several pictures of his girl (ex-interest item?) from before. Things really go around in circle don’t they?

The answer is actually pretty simple. Take it like this; we know that A.L.M.O.S.T each one of us had fall in love more than once before we actually make a stop with the VERY ONE, right? So, we must have this thing called memories from those previous in-love days. And (dramatically), some of us haven’t really let go of the feeling, or at least the tiniest bit of humanely sense of knowing pretty-someone in the past (now..now..don’t point finger to each other).  When I said ‘some of us‘; it could be YOU as well. Hence, it would be pretty screw-you to get upset about this thing (which I call it ‘little-spice’) right? What’s more, this would lead to series of couple’s-favorite let’s-give-our-love-some-breaks. That would be suck!

It’s not only them have to deal with it, YOU could have been in this situation as well (even ME). If this case does not concern you, well try to define exactly why were you in love with this particular gorgeous-someone in the first place. You might want to give the other half time to learn letting-go of his or her past and try your best to cherish the present (while you’re still part of it). You’re not even married yet you’re troubled by this trivial matter. Having to deal it after the knot-tying celebration, that’s a total different problem (you might want to start think seriously about it).

The point here is; start questioning your partner on this matter, you will quickly find yourself on the verge of another breaking-up situation. Period.

I’m not saying I will always be cool about this nor I will never find myself in such case. Just keep on reminding one another, shall we?

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